Dating 101 – Circle of Love

In a relationship we go through changes, sometimes we make it and other times we don’t.  A bond is felt between two people and then something happens. Can we explain these through psychological perspectives so we don’t feel there sometimes wrong with us?

We’re learning about the circles of love, lust and relationships that are normal in everyone’s life. Everyone has different times on each stage. Some people go fast and other takes their sweet time. Then we have other’s who are just is in the middle with their timelines.

We’re going to explore the stages that we all go through; getting to know if this is our soul mate.

Stage one – I just want to be close to you.

We meet someone and they make us laugh. We feel a bond and this energy feels so very good exciting. Going out on dates or doing things together, it feels good. They really look good to me “like wow”. Feeling excited asking “is this is my soul mate?”, yet it’s just too soon. They dress up and want to please me in every way they can. We like the same things and all is right in this world of new beginning, I just want to be close to you.

Stage Two – Is this the same person?

After awhile we aren’t doing so much together, we seem to feel different. Still feels nice yet what’s happening?  They just don’t want to dress up as much as before.  We feel conformable together so this is OK for now.  It feels like the bond is there yet we’re moving slower.  Is this the same person?
I’m not sure if I like what they are doing all time. Can we stay together is this the right one?  Some will talk to a psychic or advisor for advice and others will work it out on their own. Do we see red flags or is there fire still smoldering?
In this stage (two) we often find out if this is the long term relationship we have been looking for.

Stage Three- Will we marry?

We are really doing it. This could be the ONE.  The excitement is still around, but not as intense, yet they make me feel good. We do things together and I have times when I can be myself.
The relationship feels good and I can trust them. I know they’re not perfect yet we have all the right stuff. I can talk and do things will them or just sit in the same room. It feels great.
What do we do next?  Could we get married? This may be my souls mate?
We talk and discuss up how we want to try to live together or get married. Though our eyes we desire to live in the same house, it makes sense, we can help each other and we’re getting tired of going to each other’s place.  We could be married, connected.
These stages in dating 101 can help us understand where we are in our relationships.
Some make it and others don’t, yet throughout history this is (for the most part) the way it works.
Even in cultures with arranged marriages.

I hope this helps anyone who reads this blog.  Realize that there are stages for a healthy relationship, there’s nothing wrong with us if it doesn’t work out.   There are just some people who we aren’t compatible with us. There are others who we will get through these relationship stages and can be together.  Exploring these stages will help you understand who is your “soul mate”, and the Circle of Love.

Food for thought